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Whenever your child hits a sibling or another child you need to reenact it but with words (he goes back to the other child, but this time you will help him use words).
I feel like a broken record of telling him how hitting hurts and giving him examples of gentleness and kindness.
A three-year-old is no longer a toddler so he has more self control, and he understands being gentle (and he's heard it over and over as you stated!). What he needs now is to be told, "Use your words." But also he needs help finding the words and expressing them to others. (This is not uncommon for young boys!)
I am wondering you have any tips on how to manage this new behavior.
I also suggest reading the book, Hands are not for Hitting. (We read it a lot with our son!)
Storytelling: We gave puppet shows every day at story time, and we acted out the issue of the day with the puppets. If a child was hitting instead of using words that day, we would reenact it using the puppets! And the children often did their own puppet show and copied the teacher!
There is a wonderful book about using stories for challenging behavior: Healing Stories for Challenging Behaviour. It is a great indirect way to deal with issues in the home and in the classroom!
You may also be interested in:
- My recommended Montessori and non-Montessori books on peace and conflict resolution.
- My recommended Montessori and homeschool books for parents and teachers on Amazon.com.
- My Montessori and homeschool programs for birth to nine-year-olds at Montessori for the Earth.